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24 April 2011 @ 10:39 pm
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I have been reading a lot of feminist work lately, like Feministe and Tiger Beatdown, and while I've always called myself a feminist I wasn't always a well-informed one. This helps. I also wonder if I can be a feminist whilst believing no one could love me the way I look. I've been trying to objectively study my face without makeup and I don't like it, but I am trying.

Relatedly? I will never see Water for Elephants because the trailer keeps showing RPattz saying the line, "You are beautiful. You deserve a beautiful life." So ... ugly people deserve an ugly life, plain people a plain one? Yeaaaaah, no thanks.

Can The Eagle actually be read as anything other than a gay romance? There are no women in this movie, but it equally makes no effort to insert a Token Love Interest, and the subtext seems to suggest that the two battlin' men would have more common with each other than some fightless woman anyway. Which, I'd rather not have my gay romances through the medium of annhilating women from existence, but perhaps the film's creators thought they were only producing a sword 'n' sandals epic anyway.

Prada to Nada was a terrible and lazy adaptation of Sense and Sensibility. I also don't see why Edward Ferrars couldn't have been Latino, but maybe they felt it needed a white-guy tie-in to be generally acceptable? Which is awful all by itself.

Some serious work crazy has meant I have only read four - four! - new books of late. I keep re-reading out of a desperate search for comfort. It's amazing how little my life is when you strip away the few things that might make it meaningful. In the meantime, I'll be over here with my Austen.
 
 
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Ria: butterflieskessie on April 24th, 2011 09:45 pm (UTC)
There's a female character in the Eagle book that was... yeah, didn't exist in the film. :/ I haven't read it (it's on my TBR pile), but I flicked through it and she seems quite awesome. Not very demure, at least. I imagine she didn't fit into their concept for the movie, which is... not good, to say the least.

Also, hi! I was wondering if everything was okay as you hadn't updated in a while.
every Starbucks should have a polar bearscoradh on April 24th, 2011 09:51 pm (UTC)
OH DEAR. It's like those bandom fics - bandom was particularly notorious for it - where there were no female characters AT ALL because the writer just couldn't deal. And it was always sadder because the writers in bandom, as far as I know, are 100% female.

It's funny, I read my flist every day and am probably up to date on everyone, but updating myself has become almost part of another life.
Jain: girls kissingjain on April 24th, 2011 10:55 pm (UTC)
I've been trying to objectively study my face without makeup and I don't like it, but I am trying.

While I think loving you for you is a worthy goal (and, in fact, I rarely wear makeup myself, though more out of laziness than any other reason), I also don't think that liking made-up faces is anti-feminist. I rationalize this by reminding myself that I prefer men to wear makeup, too. :-) Not to mention that eyebrow-plucking really shouldn't be considered a female prerogative, when most cis-men need it far more than any cis-woman.
Sereniaserenia on April 25th, 2011 09:03 am (UTC)
cis-men and cis-women? I agree, though - monobrows don't suit anyone!
Jain: fireflyjain on April 26th, 2011 02:31 am (UTC)
cis-men and cis-women?

As opposed to transgendered folk, for whom the question of facial hair is (for numerous reasons) more complicated than simply saying, "Most men are like this; most women are like this."
Sereniaserenia on April 26th, 2011 03:23 am (UTC)
Aah, right!
every Starbucks should have a polar bearscoradh on April 28th, 2011 06:36 pm (UTC)
Oh, no, I don't think so either. It's just that the reason I wear makeup, and the reason I don't like my bare face, is because I don't think it's pretty enough for a boy to like. I'm not sure what I think of it on its own.
Sereniaserenia on April 25th, 2011 09:01 am (UTC)
I don't think disliking your own appearence stops you from being feminist. You don't dislike your appearance just because you look female, right? And if you were a man, you might still have the same self-image issues.

I'm slowly working through a stack of books I borrowed from my mother-in-law. I'd been putting off 'The Once and Future King' because it looked dreary, but I didn't realise it was a comedy, and the first part at least was really enjoyable. I suffered a bit with the whole boiling a cat part in part two, though.
every Starbucks should have a polar bearscoradh on April 28th, 2011 06:37 pm (UTC)
And if you were a man, you might still have the same self-image issues.

So true!

I am just not particularly fond of Arthurian stories, so I avoided that one.
a kid on the lookout for transcendenceextemporally on April 25th, 2011 03:28 pm (UTC)
I'm gonna take the other direction from the other commenters and say that believing that looks have a bearing on one's ability to be loved does seem antifeminist, BUT I don't think that you should be 'disqualified' from being feminist because a) I've always leaned in the direction of 'it's a self-declaratory label', i.e. you're a feminist if you believe in equal rights, you don't need to... you know, have an A in your Gender Studies module or even have taken one, and because b) I think it becomes way more complicated when we're talking internalised misogyny, which may be what you could call your, uh, belief? It is complicated as hell trying to negotiate all these problematic ingrained cultural beliefs. So - don't beat yourself up, I wouldn't disqualify you from being a feminist, etc. I think everyone has a certain number of ingrained faily beliefs that they've recognised aren't rational to have, whether they like it or not.
every Starbucks should have a polar bearscoradh on April 28th, 2011 06:38 pm (UTC)
I know. I'd like to spend some time in a vacuum and see if I could combat my possibly society-induced ~~issues. :P
Merit: Fashion and Artmeritjubet on April 26th, 2011 06:02 am (UTC)
I don't think it makes you any less of a feminist. Feminist bloggers aren't perfect feminists. Perfect feminists don't exist. But feminists who try their best, do exist. I imagine most feminists have critiqued their looks (hello! even if I'm not a feminist blogger, sometimes I stare in the mirror and not like what I see. Other times I do and that is a happy day).
every Starbucks should have a polar bearscoradh on April 28th, 2011 06:38 pm (UTC)
That is true. And at least I can acknowledge what I think is the problem.
cleodoxa: rabbit biscuitscleodoxa on April 26th, 2011 04:03 pm (UTC)
Not disliking your face is to be encouraged! I agree having issues with yourself is a little different to having issues with other women, but it's nicest not to have them.
every Starbucks should have a polar bearscoradh on April 28th, 2011 06:39 pm (UTC)
I really want to be like the old woman in the poem, fat and wearing purple hats and not caring. Sigh.