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16 June 2012 @ 09:27 pm
heed my words and take flight  
I just returned from three days of obligatory 'professional development' in Dublin. I was going to use 'hellish' before 'obligatory' but in fact, I think this is what purgatory is like: building paper houses, fighting over the five biscuits, and discovering my conflict management persona. All the time I really missed my new fandom. It's come at a conveniently flaily point in my life, to the extent that I brought up One Direction with EVERYONE at this course: people I'd just met, the lecturer in resilience training (who thought I was referring to a new digression in Jungian theory OH LOL), and my long-suffering friend Shane, who tiredly despises hipsters and all hipster-adjacent things. It didn't help that it was Bloomsday and we couldn't figure out if the people wandering around in period costume were pretentious assholes pretending they'd read Joyce, or painfully cool dudes who like dressing in pseudo-period clothes. (For the record, I love hipsters. I'd be a hipster, only I'm not hipster enough.)

The fact is you can't really help people whose job entails accidentally hurting and killing other people. Bless their hearts, they tried, though. I liked this breakdown of self esteem (how you feel about yourself), self confidence (your physical traits eg posture and voice) and self-concept (your impact on the world). The lecturer used an anecdote of a gay man who came out to his family and their response was, "We know." He found this extremely distressing because his self-concept was shattered by the realisation that what he'd thought was secret wasn't, really. In coming-out stories the 'we know' response is always portrayed as sweet and a relief, so I thought that was interesting. It also made me think (SURPRISE) about One Direction and the weirdly deep investment a lot of people have in them being TOTES GAY OMG YES NO TAKE BACKS. Something about how their self-concept is 'being straight' and changing that would be very traumatic, and how uncomfortable it must be to have people assuming the wrong thing about their self-concept. OR SOMETHING.

I also ended up watching recaps of Britain's Got Talent with my Terrible Relatives just because Simon Cowell was in it and he's connected with One Direction. I find Simon Cowell fascinating. In a world of posturing and artifice he seems to have built a career on honesty. I want to use a seems legit joke here.

And now to fritter away some time reading squee posts and fic by other people. Lurking is great fun on this side of Harry Potter (mind you, I thought I was a lurker in bandom and look how THAT turned out). I especially appreciate the photo commentaries. I'd try my hand at one if I wasn't so long in the tooth.
 
 
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Harry's complete lack of ducksharriet_vane on June 16th, 2012 08:47 pm (UTC)
You should do a photo commentary anyway!
every Starbucks should have a polar bear: 1D: pastelscoradh on June 16th, 2012 08:52 pm (UTC)
This will be the excuse I need to start saving pictures ... (I only just dumped about 15 folders of Panic pics that were reducing my computer to the speed of an aged tortoise.)
Filomenaaubade_saudade on June 16th, 2012 08:50 pm (UTC)
Idk, I think this is a post-sexual orientation kind of question, bc we have to think about the self-conceptualization we have to ignore the bits where a lot of the stans want them to be gay for kink related reasons and the boys might not want to be thought about as gay because ew. If we are assuming that they are straight then the trauma or negative reaction goes beyond not wanting to be thought of as differently from what they conceive themselves to be.


every Starbucks should have a polar bear: 1D: Liam awwwscoradh on June 16th, 2012 08:55 pm (UTC)
If we are assuming that they are straight then the trauma or negative reaction goes beyond not wanting to be thought of as differently from what they conceive themselves to be.

I think yes? Leaving aside homophobia, innate or otherwise - and I do think from appearances that these dudes are not remotely homophobic - it must be the worst thing ever to be constantly viewed incorrectly like that. Like if you were considered to be religious when you weren't, or whatever.

I suppose I don't understand the fetish of insisting they are gay regardless of their stated fact? It's fetishy enough to imagine them being gay for my/our amusement, surely.
a kid on the lookout for transcendenceextemporally on June 16th, 2012 10:18 pm (UTC)
Please write that fic about One Direction. :3
every Starbucks should have a polar bear: 1D: glitter Louisscoradh on June 16th, 2012 10:42 pm (UTC)
Which fic? The self-concept fic, the Simon Cowell is Yoda fic or the 'they are SEKRIT INTELLECTUALS running around Dublin in straw hats and bloomers' fic? (Not ... that different from their usual look, IT HAS TO BE SAID.)

ALSO AM I CORRUPTING YOU INTO THIS FANDOM, PLEASE SAY YES. :D
a kid on the lookout for transcendenceextemporally on June 17th, 2012 10:03 am (UTC)
The self-concept one! I mostly like SUPER-THINKY META FIC but you should write all of these.

LOL NO YOU ARE NOT DOING THIS, RACHEL
every Starbucks should have a polar bear: 1D: smexy Harryscoradh on June 18th, 2012 08:46 pm (UTC)
I doubt I could make a very enthralling fic out of it, but it's a fascinating concept. We had a public health lecture and MSM came up - men who have sex with men, classified by public health as men who are married to women. And someone said, "Aren't they just bi?" and I gave them a little spiel on not assigning sexuality. Boosting the signal, yo.

HAHAHAHA OH GO ON. THEY ARE SO SHINY.
Riakessie on June 18th, 2012 07:08 pm (UTC)
I am LOLing at your being in One Direction fandom, as my sister is in it!

If you happened to wander into a bookshop on Grafton Street... I may have been there.
every Starbucks should have a polar bear: 1D: glitter Louisscoradh on June 18th, 2012 08:44 pm (UTC)
SHUT UP SHUT UP THIS IS NOT HELPING ME VALIDATE THIS ISSUE :P

H&F? I don't know still which exact one Grafton Street is. I ... don't like Dublin. :( But I do like that bookshop! I was impressed with how many of Shakespeare's history plays they had until I remembered this was the CAPITAL and they should probably have MORE.